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Nothing sucks more than opening your heart to someone just to watch them give up on you and walk away. After speaking to a friend about a recent breakup, I have come to the conclusion that a check-list of things to do was in order:

-Cry. Cry, cry, cry, C R Y.

-Keep busy. The busier you are, the less time you have to focus on what went wrong and whose fault it was (it was probably yours. It was probably theirs. Who cares? You have the next step to focus on!)

-Make mixes. Turn to the music that makes you most alive and make as many mix tapes, mix cds, playlists WHATEVER as you can and whenever you find yourself feeling glum, turn them on.

-Cry. Seriously. Stop holding it in because you’re going to find yourself crying in a Target parking lot while holding your phone because a photo on Instagram triggered something in you. And then you’re going to get stuck in traffic on the way home and being in traffic is going to make you both angry and sad and then the next thing you know, you’ve been crying for an hour. I get it. You’re a procrastinator. Cool, me too. But this is one thing you don’t want to do later.

– Been drinkin’ a little and can’t hold your feelings in? Have a friend be your designated, “texting while under the influence” person. No one needs to hear drunken confessions, so just send ‘em to your friend. Every party involved will wake up happy. Trust me.

-Love yourself. You are a rock star and you are fine just the way you are.

-Take yourself on the dates you wish someone else would take you on. Make yourself the dinners you wanted to have with someone else. If you don’t like dating yourself, who in the world will?

-Pick up a new hobby.

-Watch every romcom you own and don’t feel guilty for yelling, “this doesn’t H A P P E N in real L I F E, moronsss!” because you mean it.

-Go out with friends.

-Eat all the dairy things, fried things, carby things and regret none of it.

-Finish that one book you started 3 years ago. Don’t even bother starting it over, just pick up where you left off.

-If you live in southern California: drive up PCH with your windows down and something poppy on the radio. I suggest One Direction, but you can go with something else.

-If you live somewhere else: drive whatever scenic road your area has. A drive is a drive.

-Go to a show or thirty. Come on. Music cures all.


This can go on forever. Ultimately, just know that you are the boss of your own life and you will get through this. Ya know, eventually. Until then, go ahead and throw your pity party because we have all been there.